Here is something I want you to know, deep in your deepest knowing and know it unshakeably:
You do not have to be perfect to be loved.
You are flawed and you sin; you stumble and fall short; you can be willful and proud. It is good to know those things about yourself – to be able to name them specifically in order to be able to ask for God’s grace to overcome them (repent of them, confess them, be healed of them). Learning how to acknowledge one’s sinfulness without inflating or diminishing their significance comes with spiritual maturity and a good spiritual director or regular confessor can help you with that.
It is natural that during Lent we should reflect on our fallen nature and the cost of redemption. But no matter what it is you see when you look at yourself, you are loveable, and you are loved.
Not because of what you look like.
Or what you have accomplished.
Or because of your cheeky grin or that impish sense of humour.
Not because of your holiness (or lack of it).
And not because of how perfect you are.
Simply because you are.
(For I am sure that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor heights, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. – Romans 8:38-39.)
You are God’s own. From all time, and all possibilities, He called YOU into being (Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I dedicated you – Jeremiah 1:5). He can’t not love you. Good Friday showed us the truth of it when Jesus surrendered to the Father’s will, died on the Cross for us (But God shows his love for us in that while we were yet sinners Christ died for us – Romans 5:8) so that we may live in that love of God for all eternity (I have loved you with an everlasting love – Jeremiah 31:3).
You are loved.